Katherine O’Reilley , 35, seems like any other stay-at-home mom, except that after she sends her kids off to school and her husband to the office, she logs onto her dominatrix blog, Kat-O-Nine-Tails.com. “For anyone who’s ever tried to get a two-year-old to go to sleep at night, there is certainly a sense of loss of control,” says O’Reilley, who is also known as Mistress Mommy. “What I love about being a dominatrix is that for a few hours a day, I can say, ‘No more Ms. Nice Mommy–down on your knees, @#%*!’”
Mistress Mommy is one of many female dominants who are married with children and taking the Internet by storm: Dommy Bloggers.
““It’s not a sex thing,” said Gina Nicely, 35, domina, President of the PTA, and woman-in-charge at DomMom.com. “I just crave having my voice heard for a few minutes everyday. If I tell a submissive to pour the milk with both hands or else, he heeds my words, unlike my kids.”
Some dommy bloggers explore their fantasies only in safe text on their websites, while others have brought their fun home. “The best thing I ever did was turn the nursery into a dungeon for company,” said Jill Smallwood, 39, a former marketing analyst and dommy blogger at DommyMayI.com. She connects with adult submissives on the World Wide Web and invites them over for a long lunch hour of humiliation, followed by milk and homemade cookies.
““Oh, doctors and lawyers make the best bottoms,” said Nicely. “It seems like anyone with a job that carries a lot of responsibility just loves to be spanked.”
““My mother totally got off on disciplining us when we were kids,” said Margot Wynn, 41, a former investment banker and current fair-haired mistress at Blondage.com. “Nowadays, if you look at your kid wrong, someone calls DFCS, so it helps to be able to take it out on another consenting adult. I joke that I’ve gone from banking to spanking.”
Nicely enjoys helping other Dommy Bloggers learn the ropes through helpful tips on her blog. “Believe it or not, my most popular post is about shopping for leather catsuits at thrift stores and demonstrating how to let them out,” she said. “I can still blog about what appeals to me as a mom, yet also as a female top. One minute I might write about gassy babies with flatulence, and the next I’m writing about disciplining attorneys with flagellation.”
All the dommies agreed that they have balanced their dominant side with their maternal side. “The only awkward moment I’ve experienced was at a birthday party for one of my son’s classmates. My son wanted a second cupcake, and I told him to ask, ‘May I have another, mistress?’ The hostess gave us a strange look and we weren’t invited back to the party this year.”